Unveiling the Masks, We Wear

Human personalities are complex and multifaceted entities that frequently behave differently in public and private settings. Our personalities’ duality can be attributed to a variety of factors, including social norms, personal comfort, and the desire to fit into various social contexts. Let us delve into this fascinating phenomenon and look into the reasons for personality changes in the public and private spheres, as well as why it can be stressful for some of us to oscillate between the two.

The Mask We Wear
Many of us present a more polished and socially acceptable version of ourselves in public. We may become more aware of our appearance, manners, and interactions with others. It’s as if we have an ingrained desire to present our best selves to the world. Perhaps we become more extroverted, engaging in conversations, expressing our opinions confidently, and being more comfortable in social situations. Often, we also strive to maintain a positive image, wanting to be seen in a favorable light

The Authentic Self
The private persona, on the other hand, reflects an individual’s true self, free of societal expectations and judgments. People tend to exhibit a broader range of emotions and behaviours when they are alone at home or with close friends and family. Here are some of the reasons for this shift:

Comfort Zone: In private settings, people feel more at ease and secure, allowing them to let their guard down. They can be more spontaneous, express their emotions freely, and engage in activities or hobbies that bring them genuine joy.
Authentic Relationships: Close relationships are built on trust and authenticity. People are more likely to be their true selves with those they trust, leading to deeper and more meaningful connections.
Emotional Release: The private sphere offers a safe space for emotional release. Individuals can vent their frustrations, cry, or express anger without fear of judgment, which can be therapeutic and stress-relieving.

The Balancing Act
The contrast between public and private personas doesn’t necessarily imply a lack of authenticity. It reflects the human capacity to adapt to different social contexts while still maintaining a core sense of self. Striking a balance between these two aspects of personality is essential for mental and emotional well-being.

While it’s important to adhere to social norms and expectations in public, individuals should also make time for self-expression and authenticity in private. As a success coach, I can help you understand and embrace these dual aspects of personality that can lead to a more fulfilling and harmonious life, where individuals can navigate the complexities of the social world while remaining true to themselves.

Reach out to me at Hello@NishaJohn.com or +1 40370 09132 and we can work on bringing the balance in your life, together!

Nisha John

MCLC | CPC | MBA | RPR | CMP

WHY.os | LCP | Lumina Spark Practitioner